The Feeling’s Mutual: Speed Dating–A Get to Know You Activity

I just made up a nifty new name for this section of the blog.  Go me! I figured since I’m in the Young Women’s presidency at church, and I’m in charge of activities that I might as well post what we’ve done.  But I’ll probably only post the successful ones because I don’t want y’all to know what a loser I am sometimes.  🙂

At our last presidency meeting we all came to the conclusion that we’d lost touch with our girls.  With babies being born and holidays, we just kinda got caught up in ourselves and felt very distant.  We decided that we needed to remedy that and work at getting to know them better.  I thought about that and came up with this idea for a mutual activity…

Speed Dating.

I know it sounds weird to speed date with your Young Women, but it actually turned out pretty well.  I searched online for the rules of speed dating, and even found a bunch of sample questions one could use while speed dating.  We have a small group, so I set up 3 tables with 2 chairs at each table.  I set the timer for 3 minutes, and when the timer was up, one side moved down to the next seat.  I had questions in the middle of each table to get the conversation started, but I don’t think they were even used that much.  We included the leaders and the girls in the ole switch-a-roo, so we all got a chance to chat.


Simple set-up, but great results!

Most of the speed dating websites say 3-5 minutes is generally the limit.  We were short on time, so 3 minutes was about all we had time for.  However, 5 minutes probably would’ve been better because we had to cut off conversations.

It was really good getting to be one-on-one with each of the girls even if it was just for a bit, and I even heard one of my girls say, “This is fun!”  Hallelujah! The night was a success!  We had some light refreshments, and that was that.  I’m sure this could easily be adapted to be a combined activity, as well.  Speed dating with the boys?  Let the giggling commence! 🙂

Easy-peasy, but tons of fun.  Just the way I like ’em.

FYI: Here’s a list of the speed dating questions I used.  Feel free to print them out and use them for your own activity!

I’d love to know how yours went, so if you try it, leave me a comment!

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10 Responses to The Feeling’s Mutual: Speed Dating–A Get to Know You Activity

  1. Jeanie Burnham says:

    thank you for this info…I had no idea what questions would be good for the youth..and your ideas are wonderful

  2. amy says:

    we are doing this for our rs activity tomorrow! thanks for the question id

  3. Elyse says:

    Here are some questions we came up with for youth conference. For the younger kids we left out the dating questions:
    Speed Dating
    With each “date” please introduce yourself: name, age, where you are from and your eye color! Next ask a question from one category – you may ask
    more than one if time permits. Please rotate to the next category with each new date.

    Knowing Me, Knowing You:
    1. Who is your hero and why?
    2. What do you hope your life is like in ten years?
    3. What is your favorite fast food restaurant? What is your favorite food? What do you eat when you’re happy? What do you eat when you’re sad? What is your favorite dessert? What would you never eat?
    4. If you could spend an hour with anyone who would it be and why? Who influences you? What famous person would you like to know?
    5. Have you ever had an operation? Do you like going to the dentist? Do you wear contacts? Have you ever been in a car accident?
    6. What is your full name? How did you get your name? Are you named after anyone?
    7. Are all your grandparents alive? What are your fondest memories of them?

    The Spiritual Gym:
    1. What is the best and worst parts about technology for youth?
    2. Can you remember a time when a friend has helped you make a good choice at a hard time? How do you handle situations when people around you are using bad language?
    3. Can you remember a time you stood in a holy place? Where was it?
    4. Have you gone to youth conference before? if yes, what was your favorite experience? if no, what are you looking forward to this conference?
    5. What is one duty to God/Personal progress goal you are working on or accomplished this year? What do you feel the purpose of Duty to God/Personal Progress is/are?
    6. Why do you feel that modesty is important?
    7. What is your favorite thing about seminary? Name something that strengthened your testimony this last year.

    Anxiously Engaged (Hobbies):
    1. Do you play an instrument? When did you start? What music do you like to listen to? What is your favorite hymn? Do you like to sing?
    2. What are your hobbies? Do you spend time by yourself or with friends? What would you do if you had a spare month to fill?
    3. What is your favorite book or movie? Is there movies coming out you are looking forward to? What book are you reading right now?
    4. Are you an outdoor person or indoor person?
    5. What do you plan to do after high school graduation?
    6. What extracurricular activities are you involved in at school?
    7. What is the best vacation you have ever been on? What is your favorite holiday? Why?

    A Peculiar People (Unique):
    1. What is the grossest thing you have ever eaten?
    2. What is your most embarrassing moment?
    3. Are you a morning person? Do you like to sleep in? Can you sleep anywhere? What’s the longest you’ve ever been awake?
    4. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever seen? Ever glued yourself to anything? Can you do anything weird? (double jointed, roll your tongue)?
    5. Which is your favorite season? why? Does any type of weather scare you? Can you see pictures in the clouds?
    6. What makes your family unique?
    7. Have you had a pet? How did you get it? How long did you have it? Are you an animal person? What is your favorite animal?

    Just the Group of Us:
    1. What are the qualities you look for in a person you want to date?
    2. What is your idea of a fun date?
    3. What makes a date disastrous?
    4. The first presidency has encouraged youth to not frequently date the same person. How do you feel your peers see you when you go on dates with multiple people?
    5. What is the most creative way you have heard of to ask someone out on a date?
    6. Should girls ask boys out on dates? Why or why not?
    7. What makes a date awkward?

  4. Julia says:

    Hi! I’m so glad you posted this! I had the idea to do a combined yw and ym activity and thought speed dating would be perfect.. But then I thought of the younger ones and thought that might not be the best name for it and am thinking “speed friendships”. I love the questions you posted and it makes it so much easier for me! Thanks again!!

  5. Ruth Kau says:

    Did this tonight with our Activity Day girls. They LOVED it! Thank you!

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